Texas’s New Judicial Ethics Rule on Wedding Officiation: What It Really MeansOn October 24, 2025, the Supreme Court of Texas quietly made an important change to the Texas Code of Judicial Conduct. The court added a new comment under Canon 4 stating that a judge does not violate the canons simply by refusing to perform a wedding ceremony if that refusal is based on a “sincerely held religious belief.” In practical terms, this means a Texas judge who chooses not to officiate same-sex weddings—while still performing weddings for opposite-sex couples—cannot be disciplined by the State Commission on Judicial Conduct for bias under the code. The rule took effect immediately and has already stirred conversation throughout the legal community. Officiating Weddings: A Judicial Role or a Personal Choice?Texas law allows judges to officiate weddings, but it doesn’t require them to do so. Performing weddings is considered an extra-judicial activity—something judges may do outside their normal courtroom duties. Until now, a judge who refused to officiate certain weddings risked being accused of showing bias or partiality under Canon 4. The new comment clarifies that when a refusal is grounded in religion, it does not automatically violate the ethical standards for judges. It’s important to understand what this rule doesn’t do. It doesn’t change the law of marriage in Texas. Same-sex marriage remains legal under Obergefell v. Hodges, the 2015 U.S. Supreme Court decision. What the Texas Supreme Court did was draw a boundary line for its own ethics system: judicial discipline will not be used to punish judges who decline to officiate weddings on religious grounds. The Path to the Rule ChangeThis change didn’t come out of nowhere. It has roots in two closely watched cases. First came Judge Dianne Hensley of Waco. In 2019, the Judicial Conduct Commission warned her that refusing to marry same-sex couples violated Canon 4’s impartiality requirement. She sued the Commission, arguing that the warning punished her for exercising her religious freedom. The Texas Supreme Court later allowed her case to move forward, signaling that the issue wasn’t as clear-cut as many thought. Then came Jack County Judge Brian Umphress. He, too, refused to officiate same-sex weddings and filed suit in federal court, arguing that the canons themselves infringed on his religious rights. The Fifth Circuit Court of Appeals eventually asked the Texas Supreme Court to clarify whether the canons actually prohibited what Umphress was doing. The new comment appears to answer that question: under Texas ethics rules, such refusals are not misconduct. What the Amendment Actually DoesThe amended comment acts as a kind of safe harbor within the Texas judicial ethics system. It tells judges that they won’t face disciplinary action simply for following their faith when deciding whether to perform weddings. But this isn’t a blanket immunity. It doesn’t protect judges—or anyone else—from potential lawsuits under federal law if their conduct is found to discriminate against same-sex couples in violation of the U.S. Constitution. The ethics rule only governs how Texas’s own disciplinary bodies will treat this kind of refusal. It doesn’t rewrite constitutional law or create new rights. The Line Between Discretion and DiscriminationIn Texas, officiating a marriage is a matter of discretion. A judge can choose to perform weddings, perform none at all, or perform only some types. The new comment makes clear that this choice, when based on sincere religious belief, doesn’t automatically signal bias or prejudice for purposes of judicial discipline. Still, if a judge routinely performs weddings for some couples but refuses others based solely on sexual orientation, that could raise questions under federal Equal Protection or Due Process principles. Whether officiating is a personal act or a governmental one remains an open question—and one that may ultimately be tested in future litigation. How This Affects Couples and CourtsFor couples, the practical effect may be minimal. Texas law provides many options for officiants—judges, justices of the peace, clergy, and others. If one officiant declines, another can usually be found quickly. But in smaller counties with only one or two available judges, refusals could create delays or inconvenience that prompt further legal challenges. For the judiciary, the amendment provides clarity where there was uncertainty. Judges now have official guidance that their religious objections won’t, by themselves, be treated as an ethics violation. Whether that stability leads to peace or more litigation remains to be seen. Looking AheadThe Fifth Circuit will still need to address the pending Umphress case, and the Hensley lawsuit continues to move through the Texas courts. Both could shape how far religious-liberty arguments extend in the context of judicial conduct. The amendment also comes under new leadership. Chief Justice Jimmy Blacklock, who was elevated earlier this year, has previously written favorably about Hensley’s right to exercise her faith while noting that no same-sex couples had complained of being denied service. His views, and those of the court he now leads, suggest that this area of law may continue evolving for years to come. Why Family-Law Practitioners Should CareAlthough this rule doesn’t directly affect divorce, custody, or property division, it reveals how Texas’s highest court is thinking about the tension between personal belief and public duty—an issue that surfaces in many family-law contexts. Understanding where that boundary lies helps lawyers anticipate how similar conflicts might be resolved when questions of conscience meet questions of law. As always, the key takeaway is that ethics rules, constitutional rights, and family-law realities are all part of the same conversation in Texas. This amendment may seem narrow, but it signals how our state’s courts continue to navigate the line between personal faith and public service. Need legal guidance? If you have questions about how this development could affect your case or your rights in a Texas family-law matter, visit our Free Consultation page to schedule an appointment with The Palmer Law Firm. When the Spooky Holiday Falls on the Fifth Friday Halloween is supposed to be all fun and candy — not confusion and conflict. But in 2025, the calendar adds a twist: Halloween falls on Friday, October 31 — the fifth Friday of the month. Under the Texas Standard Possession Order (SPO), that timing matters a lot. The non-primary conservator (often called the “possessory conservator”) is entitled to possession on the first, third, and fifth Fridays of each month. That means this year, the visiting parent will have the children for Halloween weekend. What the Texas Family Code Says According to Texas Family Code §153.312(a) (for parents living within 100 miles of each other): “The possessory conservator shall have the right of possession on the first, third, and fifth Friday of each month beginning at the time the child’s school is regularly dismissed and ending at the time school resumes on the following Monday.” Because October 31, 2025, is the fifth Friday, the non-primary parent will begin their weekend possession that afternoon — either when school lets out or at 6:00 p.m. if there is no school. This means the visiting parent will have the kids during Halloween festivities, trick-or-treating, and any weekend parties that follow. Why This Causes Confusion Many parents assume “Halloween night” will always follow the same rotation every year, but the Texas Family Code doesn’t list Halloween as a specific holiday. Instead, it falls under the normal weekend possession schedule. That can create friction when:
Because Halloween moves through the calendar, the “who gets Halloween” question can shift from year to year — and without clear communication, misunderstandings can lead to unnecessary tension. Example Scenario Let’s say Mom is the primary conservator and Dad follows the standard possession order. In 2025, since Halloween is the fifth Friday, Dad’s possession starts when school dismisses on Friday, October 31, and lasts until Monday morning. So, Dad will have the kids for trick-or-treating and the whole Halloween weekend. In 2026, when Halloween falls on a different weekday, that arrangement might flip — which is why it’s important for both parents to check the calendar each year. How to Avoid Halloween Headaches
Final Thoughts At The Palmer Law Firm, we see how small calendar quirks — like Halloween landing on the fifth Friday — can spark big misunderstandings. Knowing how your Texas Standard Possession Order applies can save you stress and help your kids enjoy the night safely and happily. If you’re unsure what your decree says or you’ve had recurring holiday conflicts, we can help review your order and clarify your rights before the next family dispute arises. Serving League City, Friendswood, La Porte, and Galveston County We can’t protect your heart, but we can protect your rights. By The Palmer Law Firm — League City & Galveston County Divorce Lawyers
When You Separate, the Financial Clock Starts Ticking Many Texans believe the financial stakes of divorce begin when someone files papers at the courthouse. In reality, the most costly mistakes often happen between separation and the official filing. During that time, one spouse may drain joint accounts, hide assets, or rack up debts that later become “community” obligations — all before the other even realizes what’s happening. At The Palmer Law Firm, we’ve seen smart, responsible people lose thousands simply because they didn’t understand how Texas community property law works once a marriage starts to unravel. Here’s what you need to know — and how to protect yourself. ⚖️ The Law: What Belongs to Whom in Texas Under Texas Family Code §3.002, anything earned, purchased, or accumulated by either spouse during marriage is presumed to be community property. That includes income, bonuses, retirement contributions, and even debt. When you separate, you don’t suddenly create two financial households in the eyes of the law — not until the divorce is finalized. Until then, both of you are tied together financially, and one spouse’s spending can affect the other’s share. That’s why it’s so critical to take action early. 🚨 Common Financial Pitfalls That Strike During Separation 1. “It’s Still Our Money” — Unchecked Withdrawals When tensions rise, one spouse may decide to “secure their share” by withdrawing large sums from joint accounts. They might justify it by saying, “It’s half mine anyway.” But in Texas, that’s a risky move. While each spouse has access to community funds, judges can reimburse or reallocate property later if the withdrawals were unreasonable or intended to harm the other spouse. Example Scenario: After a fight, Jamie transfers $15,000 from the joint savings account to her own name. Six months later, her husband files for divorce and produces bank statements showing that Jamie spent it on vacations and personal items. The court may credit that amount against her share of the final property division — or worse, find her in contempt if a standing injunction was in place. How to protect yourself:
2. Hidden Debts and Quiet Credit Cards While it’s easy to spot missing funds, hidden debt is sneakier. Spouses sometimes open new credit cards, personal loans, or use joint lines of credit during separation — purchases that can legally remain community debt. Example Scenario: Dylan and Marissa separate in June. Dylan opens a new credit card for “emergency expenses” and charges $6,000 in electronics and travel. When Marissa files for divorce, the balance becomes a joint liability unless her attorney proves the charges were made after separation and for non-community benefit. How to protect yourself:
3. Overlooking Reimbursement and Waste Claims If one spouse uses community funds to improve their separate property, the other may be entitled to reimbursement. Similarly, if one spouse intentionally wastes community assets, that can also be claimed back. Example Scenario: Alex used $40,000 of community funds to renovate a rental house he owned before marriage. When the couple divorces, his wife’s attorney files a reimbursement claim under Texas Family Code §3.402. The court awards her half the value of the improvement — an amount Alex never expected to owe. How to protect yourself:
4. Tax and Retirement Missteps Taxes are often the last thing separating couples think about — until it’s too late. Filing status, dependency exemptions, and early withdrawals from retirement accounts can all trigger avoidable penalties or inequities. Example Scenario: During separation, Lila withdraws $25,000 from her 401(k) to pay household bills. When the divorce decree is entered months later, she’s hit with early withdrawal penalties and a large tax bill — alone. Because the withdrawal benefited both spouses, a smarter move would have been to structure support payments or temporary orders through the court. How to protect yourself:
5. Property and Mortgage Mistakes It’s common for one spouse to stay in the home while the other moves out. But until the divorce is final, both spouses remain on the mortgage and liable for payments, even if only one is living there. Example Scenario: Sarah stays in the League City home and agrees to pay the mortgage while Michael rents an apartment. She misses two payments. Michael’s credit score tanks, and he can’t qualify for a car loan. Months later, when the house sells, he discovers the missed payments cost him thousands in lost credit and negotiating leverage. How to protect yourself:
💡 Proactive Steps to Safeguard Your Finances Right Now
🔍 Real-Life Lessons from Texas Clients Case Study #1: The “Prepaid” Spouse A Galveston County wife discovered her husband had prepaid a year’s rent on a luxury apartment using joint funds before filing. The court later treated it as waste of community assets, reducing his property award by the same amount. Case Study #2: The “Secret Credit Card” A Harris County husband found out months later that his wife had opened two credit cards in both their names. Her $9,800 debt became his responsibility until his attorney proved the charges were unrelated to the community. Case Study #3: The “Retirement Raid” A League City client withdrew funds from his IRA to “protect” them before the divorce was filed. He didn’t realize that triggered a tax event — and the IRS penalty hit both spouses during the split. 💬 Final Thoughts A separation is not just an emotional transition — it’s a financial one. The actions you take now can determine whether your future is stable or full of regret. At The Palmer Law Firm, we help clients secure their financial position early so they can move forward with confidence. Our goal isn’t just aggressive representation — it’s a well-considered plan that wins. If you’re separated or considering divorce in League City, Friendswood, La Porte, or the Greater Galveston Bay Area, schedule a confidential financial strategy session with our office. We’ll help you identify hidden risks, preserve your assets, and prepare for the next step — before it’s too late. When someone comes to me about divorce, they’re usually in the middle of chaos — emotions are high, and the instinct is to act fast.
But before we talk about filing motions or fighting over assets, I always start with one essential question: “What do you want your life to look like when this is over?” That question cuts through the noise. Because clarity — not anger — is the first step in any winning legal strategy. Why Clarity Comes Before Aggression Many clients tell me, “I want an aggressive attorney.” And they’re right to want that. You deserve someone who will fight hard for your rights. But real aggression in the courtroom doesn’t come from shouting louder or filing more motions — it comes from having a well-considered plan that advances your goals efficiently and decisively. When we take time at the start to define those goals — your priorities for your children, your finances, your peace of mind — we can direct that energy toward the right battles. That’s how smart, strategic advocacy beats chaos every time. Processing First, Planning Next Divorce is both emotional and legal. Acting too quickly out of fear or anger can lead to decisions that hurt your long-term interests. That’s why part of my job is to help clients pause, process, and see clearly before we act. Once emotions settle, most people realize what really matters — their kids, their stability, their dignity. That’s the point where we can move from reaction to direction, and where our plan becomes sharper and stronger. Listening Is the First Step in Strategy An effective divorce attorney doesn’t just know the law — they know their client. I spend time understanding your story because every strategic decision depends on it. When I know what you value most, I can focus our legal efforts exactly where they’ll make the biggest impact. That’s what real aggressive representation looks like: controlled, informed, and aimed directly at your goals. Turning Clarity Into Power At The Palmer Law Firm, we don’t confuse aggression with chaos. We channel it into a disciplined, purposeful plan that protects your rights, your future, and your peace of mind. Because a well-considered plan is an aggressive plan — it’s the one that wins. If you’re facing divorce in League City, Friendswood, La Porte, or anywhere in Galveston County, take the first step toward clarity. Once you know what you want, we can build the strategy to get you there. When couples in Texas divorce, few assets carry as much emotional and financial weight as the family home. Beyond its market value, a home represents stability, memories, and — for many — the heart of family life. For divorcing spouses in the Houston–Galveston region, deciding what happens to the family residence can be one of the most complex and emotionally charged parts of a settlement. At The Palmer Law Firm, we often tell clients that the family home isn’t just a structure made of brick and siding — it’s a “box” that contains three smaller boxes inside: use issues, disposition issues, and tax issues. Understanding each of these areas is key to reaching a fair and informed outcome. 1. Use Issues: Who Stays in the Home During the Divorce? Before a divorce is finalized, one of the most immediate questions is who gets to live in the home. Texas courts may award exclusive occupancy to one spouse — usually the parent who has primary possession of the children — as part of temporary orders. During this time, several practical concerns arise:
In the Houston area, where mortgage rates have fluctuated dramatically since 2020 and home values have soared in places like League City and Friendswood, it’s common for spouses to struggle over whether one can realistically afford to stay in the house after separation. A mediator or attorney can help establish temporary agreements that balance fairness, financial responsibility, and the children’s stability — often with the understanding that these arrangements are just that: temporary. 2. Disposition Issues: Who Ultimately Gets the Home? Once the divorce moves toward settlement, the couple must decide the long-term fate of the property. In most Texas divorces, one of four outcomes occurs:
In these cases, the court may order the home to be listed for sale. The Texas Family Code allows flexibility, but the overriding rule is that property division must be “just and right” — which may or may not mean 50/50. 3. Tax Issues: Understanding Capital Gains and Deductions The third “box” — tax issues — often catches people off guard. Even though Texas does not have a state income tax, federal tax consequences still apply when the marital home is sold or transferred. The 2025 Federal Capital Gains Law As of 2025, under IRS Publication 523, homeowners can still exclude up to $250,000 of capital gains on the sale of a primary residence if single, or up to $500,000 if married filing jointly. To qualify, the seller must have:
After divorce, only the spouse who remains living in the home may later claim the exclusion individually (up to $250,000). If the couple sells the house together before the divorce is final, they may still qualify for the $500,000 joint exclusion — which can make timing the sale critical. For instance, suppose a Friendswood couple purchased their home in 2012 for $250,000, invested $50,000 in improvements, and now sell it for $575,000. Their capital gain is $275,000. If they sell while still legally married, they can exclude the entire gain from federal taxes. If they wait until after divorce, each ex-spouse may only exclude up to $250,000, leaving a small portion potentially taxable if the home continues to appreciate. Deductible Costs During Divorce In the interim period, the spouse paying the mortgage may still deduct the interest and property tax portions on their federal tax return — even if temporary orders give exclusive use to the other spouse. However, these deductions must align with ownership interest and IRS allocation rules. A qualified tax advisor should review any interim arrangements before filing. 4. Calculating Equity: What’s the House Really Worth? Before negotiating who keeps or sells the home, spouses must understand the difference between equity and capital gain — two terms that sound similar but serve very different purposes. Here’s how equity is generally calculated: Calculation of Equity Example (Houston Home) Fair Market Value (FMV)$575,000 Less: Mortgage– $300,000 Less: Equity Line / Liens– $25,000 Gross Equity $250,000 Less: Estimated Sale Costs (≈7%)– $40,250 Net Equity $209,750 That $209,750 is the real amount the spouses could walk away with after a sale — before taxes or division. When one spouse “buys out” the other, the buyout should reflect true net equity, not just the difference between value and mortgage. In many Houston-area divorces, parties also factor in estimated real estate commissions, refinance fees, and closing costs even if they decide not to sell. 5. Emotional and Strategic Considerations While spreadsheets and tax rules are essential, the emotional side of the decision shouldn’t be underestimated. For parents, especially, the home often represents continuity for children. Many mothers and fathers in Galveston County choose to keep the family home, even at financial strain, to avoid disrupting school zones or friendships. Attorneys play a critical role in helping clients distinguish between emotional value and financial feasibility. Sometimes, keeping the home is worth the sacrifice; other times, selling it frees both parties to rebuild more securely. Either way, understanding the financial, tax, and emotional realities behind the decision ensures informed consent — and a smoother transition to post-divorce life. Final Thoughts In Texas, the family residence is often the largest community asset — and the most sentimental. Whether you’re selling, refinancing, or co-owning temporarily, your decisions should be based on clear financial data and current tax law, not just emotion. At The Palmer Law Firm, we help clients in League City, Friendswood, La Porte, and the greater Houston area navigate the sale or retention of their homes with both fairness and foresight. If you’re facing divorce and uncertain about what will happen to your home, we can guide you through the legal, financial, and emotional aspects of this important issue. At The Palmer Law Firm, we believe that the practice of family law isn’t just about statutes and courtrooms — it’s about people, their stories, and the legacies they leave behind. As an attorney, I walk alongside clients who are facing some of the most difficult chapters of their lives, and I know that questions of mortality, resilience, and purpose often come to the surface during those transitions. In that spirit, I want to share something more personal — how my own family history of illness and my survival of a massive heart attack reshaped the way I think about life, aging, and what truly matters. I sometimes joke that my family tree reads like a medical warning label. My grandfather died from diabetes. My father from Alzheimer’s. And me? I survived a massive heart attack in 2021 that doctors told me should have killed me. Three generations, three different exits, all tracing back to that inescapable reality most of us spend our younger years avoiding: we’re all on borrowed time. That brush with death didn’t just change my diet or exercise routine—it shoved me into the classic middle-aged rite of passage: the existential quest (or crisis, depending on your flavor of drama). Mortality had moved from an abstract concept into my medical chart. The Longevity Hype—and Hope Hardly a week goes by without a breathless headline about the latest “fountain of youth” breakthrough: drugs that make mice live 40% longer, gene edits that roll back cellular clocks, or supplements influencers swear will keep you young forever (spoiler: they won’t). For every charlatan peddling snake oil, though, there are serious scientists making real progress. In the 1990s, researchers discovered that changing a single worm gene could double its lifespan. Since then, they’ve mapped the “hallmarks of aging”—from DNA damage to faltering immune systems—and developed drugs that make lab animals not just live longer, but live healthier. Imagine a pill that didn’t just fend off cancer, but also dementia, heart disease, and diabetes at the same time. Compared to that, curing cancer alone looks like a rounding error. And while the longevity revolution is still in its early innings, there’s real promise that within our lifetime—maybe even within the next five years—we’ll see the first medicines that treat aging itself. Not immortality, but extra innings. The Outliers Among Us Then there are people like Maria Branyas Morera, who died last year at 117. She didn’t have my grandfather’s diabetes or my father’s Alzheimer’s. Instead, she ate yogurt, walked her garden paths, played the piano, and somehow hit the genetic jackpot. Scientists who studied her found her immune system was unusually “efficient” and her microbiome produced anti-inflammatory compounds. Her DNA carried protective variants most of us can only envy. She aged, but she didn’t get sick—not until the very end. That distinction matters. So, What About the “Midlife Crisis”? Here’s the funny thing: psychologists have been telling us for years that the dreaded “midlife crisis” is more myth than reality. Studies show that happiness doesn’t nosedive in your 40s and 50s—it actually climbs steadily into later life. We get better at regulating emotions, pruning our priorities, and focusing on what matters. The highs may not be as high, but neither are the lows. But statistics don’t blunt the shock of mortality. When your cardiologist looks you in the eye and says, “You almost didn’t make it,” you don’t respond by buying a red convertible. You respond by asking: What do I want the rest of my time to mean? Where I Landed For me, the “existential crisis” wasn’t about fearing death so much as squaring up with life. I don’t want to just avoid the diseases that killed my grandfather and father. I want to age like Maria—wrinkled but vital, knees aching but mind sharp, still walking my garden paths (or maybe the beaches of Galveston). I don’t pretend to control the genetic lottery. But I can choose how I live: how I eat, how I move, how I love, how I work. Science may one day hand us the tools to push back aging, but until then, I figure it’s my job to give mortality a good run for its money. Because if there’s one lesson in all of this—heart attacks, funerals, and centenarians alike—it’s that the crisis isn’t midlife. The crisis is wasting the life you still have. At The Palmer Law Firm, we see echoes of this lesson every day. Divorce, custody disputes, and family transitions all remind us how precious time really is. We can’t control the past, but we can shape the future. My personal journey has taught me that resilience, perspective, and purposeful choices matter most — both in life and in the law. If you’re facing your own turning point, know that we are here to help you navigate it with compassion and strength. |
Need more information about this or other family law topics in Texas?
Click the button below to book a FREE ATTORNEY CONSULTATION (832) 819-3529
Attorney Sean Y. Palmer has over 20 years of legal experience as a Texas Attorney and over 25 years as a Qualified Mediator in civil, family and CPS cases. Palmer practices exclusively in the area Family Law and handles Divorce, Child Custody, Child Support, Adoptions, and other Family Law Litigation cases. He represents clients throughout the greater Houston Galveston area, including: Clear Lake, NASA, Webster, Friendswood, Seabrook, League City, Galveston, Texas City, Dickinson, La Porte, La Marque, Clear Lake Shores, Bacliff, Kemah, Pasadena, Baytown, Deer Park, Harris County, and Galveston County, Texas.
Call (832) 819-3529 If you live in the Houston area and would like to consult with one of our attorneys, please leave your information below.Archives
October 2025
Categories
All
|



RSS Feed