Left Behind: How Texas Dads Can Fight for Custody After a Surprise Out-of-State Move

It’s a common but heart-wrenching story. A father finds out that the mother of his child has suddenly packed up, moved to another state, and taken the child with her—without a court order, and without his consent. He’s left behind, wondering what rights he has, whether Texas courts still have authority to intervene, and how to even begin the process of asserting his parental rights. If this sounds like your situation, read on—there’s good news and some critical steps you need to take immediately.

No Custody Orders? You're Not Alone.
Many unmarried or divorcing parents find themselves in legal limbo when no formal custody orders have been issued. Without a signed court order determining conservatorship (custody), possession, and access, both parents technically have equal rights to the child under Texas law. That means that although the mother may have taken the child across state lines, she hasn't necessarily broken the law—but that doesn’t mean she’s immune from legal consequences, either.

Jurisdiction Starts at Home.
The first issue to address is whether Texas courts can even hear your case. In legal terms, this is called jurisdiction. For custody and visitation matters, Texas follows the Uniform Child Custody Jurisdiction and Enforcement Act (UCCJEA). Under the UCCJEA, the “home state” of the child—where the child has lived with a parent for at least six consecutive months immediately before the start of the case—has exclusive jurisdiction to make initial custody determinations.

What if the Child Has Left Texas?
If the child lived in Texas for at least six months before the mother left the state, Texas is still the home state—even if the child is now residing elsewhere. That means Texas courts can still assert jurisdiction to issue initial custody orders. But timing matters. The longer the child stays gone, the weaker the jurisdictional argument becomes. That’s why acting quickly is critical.

What if the Child Hasn’t Lived in Texas Long Enough?
Let’s say the child recently moved to Texas and didn’t reside here for a full six months. In that case, the court will look to the child’s previous home state—perhaps Nebraska, Pennsylvania, or wherever the child lived before. But if no other state qualifies under the UCCJEA as the home state, Texas may still exercise jurisdiction if the child and at least one parent have significant connections here, and if substantial evidence about the child’s care is available in Texas.

The Challenge of Service of Process.
Filing a custody case is only half the battle. You must also properly serve the other parent with legal notice of the case. If the mother is now living out of state, service becomes more complicated—but not impossible. Texas allows service of process outside the state, but you must strictly follow both Texas rules and those of the state where she currently lives. Failure to serve her correctly could delay your case or even get it dismissed.

Filing for Divorce and Custody Together.
If you’re married to the child’s other parent, filing for divorce in Texas can allow you to request temporary custody orders immediately, even before the final divorce is granted. Texas allows divorce filings as long as you have been a resident of the state for at least six months and of the county for at least 90 days. So long as Texas is the child’s home state (or qualifies under the UCCJEA’s fallback rules), a Texas judge can also rule on custody during the divorce.

Emergency Jurisdiction: A Limited but Powerful Tool.
If your child is in immediate danger—say, due to neglect, abuse, or unstable living conditions in the new state—Texas courts can assert temporary emergency jurisdiction. But this is reserved for truly urgent situations and won’t result in permanent custody orders unless Texas becomes the home state or the other state declines jurisdiction.

Don’t Wait—Silence Can Be Misconstrued.
One of the biggest mistakes a parent can make is doing nothing. If the other parent remains in another state long enough with the child, that state could eventually become the new home state. And if you haven’t taken legal action, you risk being seen as indifferent or acquiescent to the move. Courts prefer to see that you acted swiftly and responsibly to protect your parent-child relationship.

Document Everything.
While you're preparing to file, keep detailed records of all communications with the other parent, including text messages, emails, and call logs. Make note of when the child was removed from the state, what notice (if any) you were given, and whether you've had access to your child since the move. This documentation may become key evidence in your custody case.

Talk to a Texas Family Lawyer Now.
​Every situation is unique, and when your child’s well-being and your parental rights are at stake, you don’t want to navigate this alone. A Texas family law attorney can help you evaluate whether Texas has jurisdiction, prepare your filings, ensure proper service, and advocate for your rights in court. Custody cases with multi-state issues are complex—but not hopeless. If you act now, you can protect your relationship with your child and bring stability back to your family’s life.

Need Help Now?
If you’re facing a custody situation like this in Texas, call The Palmer Law Firm to schedule a confidential consultation. Let’s figure out your next step—before it’s too late.