![]() A tricky question that will eventually face anyone who is either going through or has recently been in a Texas Divorce is when you should tell others about the break up. As we are looking at the beginning of the new school year, you may be wondering whether to tell your child’s school. So, should I tell my child’s school about my divorce? In this video, we’ll answer that question along with other back to school tips for divorced or divorcing parents. Informing Your Child’s School Experts say that it is not necessary to jump ahead and tell the school until things are actually in motion. My general advice however, is to make your child’s school aware of the divorce once it has been finalized and a custody order has been put in place. This becomes an even better idea if your custody case was or is a contentious one. Making sure the school is aware of the visitation schedule will help ensure your child goes home with the right parent on the right day. Protective Orders However, in some cases, my advice moves beyond “it’s a good idea” to a very pointed and urgent admonishment that if you are involved in a case with a finding of family violence and a protective order, it is absolutely necessary to inform the school of the existence of the order. The school needs to know who and who does not have access to the child. Fortunately most schools are very aware of their responsibilities to keep your child safe. Bringing them a certified copy of your protective order is an excellent way to ensure they can do their job by clarifying their duties as it relates to your child. General Parent Rights on Education Fortunately most cases do not require that amount of vigilance. There are certain conservator rights that are usually granted to both parents in the bulk of all cases, although a Texas court may limit them if it is warranted for some reason. Many of these relate to schools. Unless the court specifically ordered otherwise, under 153.073 of the Texas Family Code both parents have the right to receive educational information about their child and to have access to their child’s school records. Each parent can independently consult with school officials about their child’s educational and extracurricular activities. Each parent can attend school activates, and each parent has the right to be notified by the school in the case of an emergency. If you have a standard custody order in Texas, or if you anticipate no reason the court would limit these educational right in your pending divorce or custody suit, then it is probably a good idea to let the school know what is going on. If the school knows you are living apart, they can take necessary steps such as sending home two copies of report cards, discipline reports, and the like. This will keep both parents in the loop and avoid any potential conflicts. And avoiding conflict will always save you emotional stress, time and potentially litigation costs.
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![]() One of the largest concerns people have when first faced with the reality of divorce is how much it will cost. Fears may run rampant at this stressful time. Will I lose everything I worked for? Can’t we save money by avoiding lawyers and just work it out ourselves? Believe me, I understand. Money is a very important factor in divorces and being in the dark about what the actual costs are will only make a stressful situation worse. So let’s talk about it. I won’t sugar coat it for you- it is never easy to split up a home into two. Couples divide their assets, and that obviously means that they will have less than when they are together. It is simple math, and I’m amazed at how little my clients have considered it prior to coming to my office. You can be sure that they are much wiser after they leave however. Because I want my clients to have all the facts, so they can make informed decisions for themselves. Obviously, every household income is different, so we can only talk about categories of costs in this video. We have already mentioned the loss of income from the other spouse. In addition to that, there are also new expenses that have to be paid didn’t exist before - as each spouse must set up a new household begin their independent lives. These include rental deposits, storage, and other necessities. There will also be mandatory court fees for your case which include the original filings fees and other service fees. Also, there may be professional service fees such as mediator fees or home appraisers. If you have children you’ll be required to take a mandatory parenting classes. If custody is disputed there may be many more expenses. The court may appoint a custody evaluator to help you resolve custody and visitation issues. In high conflict cases, a social study or psychological evaluation may be called for and the court may even appoint a representative for the child’s interest. These professional expenses will be charged to one or both of the parties in the divorce. A key factor is how much conflict exists between the parties. If there is high conflict, then the case will drag on as the court becomes more involved in settling the issues that arise. Most attorney’s charge on an hourly basis and the more conflict there is during the divorce, the more work they have to do- and this drives up costs. As you can see the cost of your divorce depends on your specific situation. In the face of these costs, it may be tempting to try the many do-it-yourself options out there such as fill in the blank forms. I honestly can’t recommend these. Think about the fact that the outcome of this divorce is going to affect the rest of your life. The advice and counsel of an experience family law attorney is the only real way to ensure that you get the best possible outcome for case and that will be money well spent. In an upcoming video we will discuss creative ways for you the be able to hire an attorney even if you have very little money on hand. If you have any questions about your divorce or family law case, please visit us at: www.mydivorcefirm.com ![]() When a husband and wife are facing the emotional and psychological turmoil of a divorce, a question that must inevitably come up is whether the parties should seek and out-of-court settlement or would they be better off taking the matter to trial. This is probably the most critical question you will face in your divorce and there are pros and cons to each approach. Letting the Judge Decide If parties, cannot, or will not settle out of court, then the alternative is to let the family court decide. A family judge is a county judge, but unlike district judges, they only deal with matters that fall under the Texas Family Code. This judge is supposed to act with impartiality and without any preconceived ideas about your case until they have heard the evidence presented by each side. Bringing a case to court has significant risks because you must convince a judge about every aspect of your case that you are trying to get from custody of your children to who gets the lawn mower. Most people have a skewed idea of what court is about. They think it is a stage in which they just have portray their spouse to be the worst human on earth and therefore they should give everything to you – “the good guy”. But the fact is that such unfocused mud-slinging very rarely will sway a family judge one way or the other. Parties really need to present their case in a way that will follow the strict rules of what can and can’t be said and at the same time prove each point in the case you present. When you choose litigation, you are putting all your trust into your attorney that he will present the best case for you and in the court system that they will do the just thing. This may the only option you have if the settlement offers from your spouse are less than what is fair and equitable and are far less than you think the judge would give you in court. On the other hand, if the settlement offer is close enough to what you could reasonably get in court, and the high cost of taking it to court and the risk you face in that “all or nothing” game make it not worth the trouble of taking it to court, then parties should choose to settle it out of court. Communication Is Key To Settlement If you are one of the very rare few spouses who maintain good communication and respect through the divorce process then you may be able to settle matter on your own and perhaps you and your spouse may utilize your attorneys only in an administrative capacity to help make sure the legalities are done correctly. However, in my experience, less than 1% of all divorce cases are resolved in this way. Most couples lack communication and/or respect by the time they file for divorce, or they will lose this ability by the time the case reaches the negotiation phase. For the other 99%, they lack the ability to communicate and cooperate. Under these circumstances it may be nearly impossible to settle your issues and avoid court. Fortunately that does not mean all these couples are fated to have a contested trial to end their case. In Texas, there are a whole range of procedures to help couples who can’t communicate to nonetheless settle their case. These procedures are called Alternative Dispute Resolution. These are private meetings outside court system which are designed to bring about a mutually agreed settlement. In divorce cases, we most commonly use a process called mediation, but there are many other procedures such as settlement conferences, mini-trials and arbitration that can be tailored to your cases’ needs. Which Is Right For Your Case? I believe that each client is an individual with unique needs, and so each divorce case is also unique and will be successful or not depending on the attention to those special details. If you are facing a divorce, you should begin to think about those details. Depending on where you are in the emotional process, this may be hard, but the earlier you begin to think strategically about your case, the better will be the outcome. What are your plans for the future? Will you remarry? Do you plan to have any more children? Will you purchase a new house? Will you start a new job? Money is always a very important issue in considering whether to go to trial or settle. At the earliest stage, many people try to avoid attorneys altogether so save money. What these people fail to understand about settlement and negotiation however is that it will only work if both parties are negotiating from a position of strength. The threat of the other side winning everything at trial is what motivates people to settle before it gets to trial. The only way for you to be able to have that strength is to hire a reputable, experienced attorney who is ready and able to take the case all the way- and win. If you have any questions about your divorce or family law case, you can visit our website at www.mydivorcefirm.com ![]() Divorcing can get complicated fast. Along with the legal and financial issues, there is a briars patch of stress and emotions that can quickly snare you and drag you down. Sometimes a client can feel like they need an outlet, and the ready connivance of Facebook and Twitter may make is seem like those would be good places to do a little venting. THINK TWICE. If the end of your marriage is on the horizon, you may want to stop and think about how your activity on the internet can affect you and your soon to be former spouse. According to the president of the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers, it is become ever more important to manage your online footprint and is quickly becoming a regular topic in divorce consultations with lawyers. By now, must people should understand that anything put on the internet is, essentially forever. Therefore, if you and/or your ex or soon to be ex spouse use social media frequently, you may try to work out an agreement about what either of you will put on the internet regarding your former marriage. Decide what should not be on there- particularly when it comes to posting photos. Should your kid’s pictures be on Facebook? How about dating sites? These questions may be awkward, or they may seem unnecessary, but a little communication at the front end may fend off conflict and perhaps even litigation. We love our social media and as an attorney, I find that telling clients simply to close their Facebook account is one piece of advice that will rarely be followed. But the fact of the matter is that from the perspective of trying to manage your case, there is hardly anything positive that can come from using social media during the pendency of your divorce, but there is a great deal of the risk of harm to your case. One ugly rant on Facebook could severely damage your case and even require you to have supervised visitations with your children. Social media profiles can a running record of your most highly charged moments. This record can be legally accessed by your spouse’s attorney and used to put you in the worst light possible. Certainly your postings of Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and other sites are not a complete reflection of who you are, but if your are in a contested divorce, particularly if child custody is an issue then social media is like a storehouse of ammunition that your spouses’ attorney can use to severely damage you in court with. You may want to talk with a legal professional about the use of social media and your online profile. In the midst of one of the most stressful occurrences in life, do you really want your private matters to be publicized to the world wide web? As you work through the process of your divorce, and experienced family law attorney can help you understand what data is worth protecting. |
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