A big decision needs to be made early on in a divorce case- who will take care of the kids? Separated or newly divorced parents have to make tough decisions about child care in the best of times, but with the spread of the coronavirus, those choices are harder than ever. As our Texas Governor moves forward with re-opening the economy, more parents are returning to work. This has made child care decisions more urgent -and desperate-for millions of Texans.
Child care options are decreasing
Most single parents with minor children need to work during the day. In the pre-pandemic days, one common option for many was to have grandparents watch the children while the primary care parent works. However, not every parent is blessed with this as an option. And now, with the spread of the Covid-19 virus and it's high death rate among the elderly, many people who did have this option are now not willing to risk the lives of their own parents by exposing them to grandchildren who often do not display symptoms of Covid-19 and can infect their unwitting grandparents with the virus.
The usual option, if relatives are not available, is to rely on private daycare. But many parents are worried that they will be putting their children at risk by taking them to a daycare center during a pandemic. This fear is spurred by news that Texas has just experienced one of it's most infectious and deadly weeks for Covid-19.
State data shows an increase in coronavirus cases stemming from both large gatherings and child care centers. The state reported 576 positive cases of the coronavirus — 382 staff members and 194 children — in child care facilities as of this week. That’s up from 59 cases in mid-May.
Are Daycare Facilities Safe? Little Guidance from the Government.
Of those facilities that remain open, even at limited capacity, the State's response to the fears of contaminating kids in daycare has been muddled, to say the least.
Just two weeks ago, the government surrendered all existing regulation of safety measures at state-licensed child care centers. As of mid-June they were no longer required to comply with a list of safety precautions that had been in effect since mid-April. That meant centers could decide for themselves if they wanted to check staff temperatures, require parents to drop off their children outside or stop serving family-style meals, according to a previous notice from the state Health and Human Services Commission.
Then, in an apparent reversal this week, Gov. Greg Abbott directed a state health agency to enact new safety standards for child care centers during the coronavirus. However those new standards have not yet been published.
To make matters less clear, individual county and municipal authorities in Texas have been sending mixed messages to citizens about how their local government plans to respond to the recent deadly spike in infections. In Harris County, which includes the City of Houston, Judge Lina Hidalgo has announced plans to mandate masks and return to the stay-at-home conditions imposed this Spring. Meanwhile in neighboring Galveston County, which includes more suburban and semi-rural /industrial areas, Judge Mark Henry has defiantly announced that he won't issue any new government restrictions and said people must rely on their own personal responsibility to stay free from infection.
Ultimately, Parents Must Find Daycare Options and Judge Facility Safety On Their Own
Experts say that daycare is a key piece to reopening the U.S. economy. If a single parent must go back to work and has no other child care options, then choosing among the remaining daycare facilities that remain open in the area may be the only choice. But without clear government guidance, selecting the safest daycare facility for your child is a daunting challenge.
That is why we are offering a checklist of the most important, researched questions to ask a daycare facility before you enroll your child. The checklist is based on expert recommendations and can help you determine if a child care, daycare or daycamp facility is coronavirus ready. No facility can guarantee your child will be 100% safe from infection, but download this free checklist and bring it with you when you visit the facility or ask questions from it when on the phone. Researched from the CDC and other experts, this question checklist will help you pick the safest daycare facility. The Palmer Law Firm is offering this checklist as a free public service.
To download the Daycare Safety Checklist. Please click HERE.
Since 1973, the number of father only families has increased at a faster rate than has the number of mother-only families. Today, 15% of all single-parent families are headed by a father. Fathers facing divorce should consider carefully any decision they make about child custody that is based on old, outmoded ideas of "traditional" roles. And although they are changing somewhat slower than the rest of society, the courts are coming around to the realization that fathers can make just as successful single parents as mothers. So it is time to reexamine some of the old myths about single fathers.
Myth #1: Fathers who gain custody were themselves products of single-parent families.
There is no evidence to suggest that fathers who are awarded custody of their children were raised in any specific way. Studies in the 1980s show that 80% of fathers who are awarded custody grew up in a two-parent households, but this was likely to be the result of a generational difference because divorces were far less common in the 1950s and 1960s than they are today. Today's single father can come from any kind of background and upbringing.
Myth #2: Custodial fathers have high incomes
It is well documented that there is an extremely high percentage of mother-only families that are below the poverty level. What is less well know is that more than 18 percent of father-only families are poor. Another 21 percent are just above the poverty line. If there is a custody dispute, the ability to afford a child is indeed one of the factors the court will decide in determining who gets custody. Higher income will give one party and advantage- if combined with other factors. But remember, the amount of income is only relative to the other parent. If both parents receive the same amount of income, even if it is very little, this will not sway the courts.
Myth #3: Most Custodial Fathers have remarried.
Although custodial fathers are more likely to be married than custodial mothers, the fact is that most custodial fathers (59%) are not currently married.
Myth #4: Custodial Fathers primarily receive custody of older boys
This myth really has two parts: first, the fathers primarily obtained custody of older children and second that fathers are more likely to receive custody of boys. It is true that the children living in father-only families are older than those living in mother-only families. This may be a hang-over effect of the "tender-years doctrine" which favored women over men for custody of young children. Many family courts followed the doctrine for years, but it has fallen aside with other stereotypes and is not a lawful factor in Texas courts. Still, 17.5 percent of single-father families include children younger than three, and about a third contain a preschooler. Similarly, although children in father-only families are somewhat more likely to be boys, 44 percent of all children in such families are girls.
Myth #5: Most custodial fathers are widowers.
This may have been true at one time, but being a widower is not were you will find most custodial fathers today. In fact, you will only find 7.5 percent of single father households being widowers today. As a matter of fact, 24.5 percent of single father households are headed by never-married fathers.
Many fathers make their decisions about whether to seek custody based on outmoded ideas about what is acceptable in society and in the courts. But these myths need to be busted and fathers need to based their decisions on the real and current facts. If you are a father involved in a custody battle, you need to seek the truth from an experienced family law attorney who will help you separate fact from fiction. For more information, please visit us at www.bayshoreattorney.com
Attorney Sean Y. Palmer has over 18 years of legal experience as a Texas Attorney and over 24 years as a Qualified Mediator in civil, family and CPS cases. Palmer practices exclusively in the area Family Law and handles Divorce, Child Custody, Child Support, Adoptions, and other Family Law Litigation cases. He represents clients throughout the greater Houston Galveston area, including: Clear Lake, NASA, Webster, Friendswood, Seabrook, League City, Galveston, Texas City, Dickinson, La Porte, La Marque, Clear Lake Shores, Bacliff, Kemah, Pasadena, Baytown, Deer Park, Harris County, and Galveston County, Texas.