Domestic violence and abuse stems from a desire to gain and maintain power and control over an intimate partner. Abusive people believe they have the right to control and restrict their partners, and they may enjoy the feeling that exerting power gives them. They often believe their own feelings and needs should be the priority in their relationships, so they use abusive tactics to dismantle equality and make their partners feel less valuable and deserving of respect in the relationship.
No matter why it happens, abuse is not okay, and it’s never justified.
Abuse is a learned behavior. Sometimes people see it in their own families. Other times they learn it from friends or popular culture. However, abuse is a choice, and it’s not one that anyone has to make. Many people who experience abuse growing up decide not to use those negative and hurtful behaviors in their relationships. Additionally, drug or alcohol addiction can often escalate abuse, but these issues do not cause abuse.
Who Can Be in an Abusive Relationship?
Anyone can be abusive relationship, and anyone can be the victim of abuse. It happens regardless of gender, age, sexual orientation, race or economic background. If you are being abused by your partner, you may feel confused, afraid, angry and/or trapped. All of these emotions are normal responses to abuse. You might also blame yourself for what is happening, but you are never responsible for your partner’s abusive actions. Being abusive is a choice; it’s a strategic behavior the abusive person uses to create their desired power dynamic. Regardless of the circumstances of the relationship or the pasts of either partner, no one ever deserves to be abused.
If you need immediate help, dial 911. You may also call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-787-3224. If you live in Harris or Galveston Counties and need help obtaining a protective order, divorce or any other family law assistance, you can get more information by calling The Palmer Law Firm at (832) 819-3529.
The Palmer Law Firm
303 E. Main St., Suite 230
League City, Texas 77573
Attorney Sean Y. Palmer has over 19 years of legal experience as a Texas Attorney and over 25 years as a Qualified Mediator in civil, family and CPS cases. Palmer practices exclusively in the area Family Law and handles Divorce, Child Custody, Child Support, Adoptions, and other Family Law Litigation cases. He represents clients throughout the greater Houston Galveston area, including: Clear Lake, NASA, Webster, Friendswood, Seabrook, League City, Galveston, Texas City, Dickinson, La Porte, La Marque, Clear Lake Shores, Bacliff, Kemah, Pasadena, Baytown, Deer Park, Harris County, and Galveston County, Texas.